Inside your own self is so much absent that you try to cling to anything in order to feel safe. You are not rooted, so you try to make anything your roots. When you are rooted in your self, when you know who you are, what this being is which is in you, and what this consciousness is which is in you, then you will not cling to anyone.
You have not experienced yourself, you know nothing of who you are. In this blindness, in this ignorance, in this unconsciousness, love does not grow. This is a desert in which you are living.
—Attached to Nothing.
The Koan of Relationships: Love, Freedom & Aloneness